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Adam Kay
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A British comedian, that is releasing a new tell-all book this week, has claimed he was raped in a New Zealand gay sauna and the attacker ‘thanked’ him afterwards.

On a trip to New Zealand ten years ago, the former Doctor and now author Adam Kay planned on cheating on his wife with a man before returning to his ‘heterosexual life’.

In his book Undoctored, he went into detail as to how he planned to visit a gay sauna to engage in his sexual endeavour while keeping a low profile.


He said a sauna “sounded like probably the most appealing/least appalling option and the best chance of ­getting what I wanted pronto and incognito,” he wrote.

Instead, Kay said the attacker led him to a cubicle in the sauna and made him have sex with him even after Kay had protested and tried to escape his clutches.

Speaking about the horrific ordeal, Kay said he gave a false name and put on a French accent at the entrance. But his day took a sudden turn.

“A man in his 40s stood up, took my arm and wordlessly led me to a dimly lit cubicle, where he raped me,” and then said “thanks” afterwards.

Kay has become is now an author, screenwriter and comedian whose books have sold over 3 million copies and have won numerous awards.

He currently lives in Oxfordshire UK with his dog and his husband.


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For years Kay wrestled with the feeling of guilt and blame, and even questioned if he had done something wrong himself.

Kay explained he likes to give people the benefit of the doubt and later tried “to work out if there could have been some kind of ­misunderstanding, something I did wrong”.

But he has no doubt he was raped.

“But I can’t – the truth of it is inescapable. I was clear. I said no when it became obvious he wanted this interaction to go a lot further than I did,” he wrote.

“I said no, again, when he started. I said no when he ­overpowered me and pushed my head into a wipe-clean cushion that stank of anti­septic.”

Kay tried to scream but knew there was no chance he would be heard.

“Not by this man who didn’t want to hear and not by anyone else, thanks to the rhythmical pounding of the music”.

The rapist then said “thanks” before leaving.

“Not pulling my hand away when he took my arm – was that a way of saying yes, in a language I’d never been taught, negating everything I would say afterwards?”

Kay never went to the police, saying it was unthinkable, believing the case would be flimsy.

“Saying it out loud would make it real; I would never be able to deny it or pretend it never ­happened, which already felt like my only way of getting through it,” he wrote.

For a decade he told no one about what happened to him. “Maybe I was too ashamed.”

“Or maybe I just knew from the moment it happened that I would never forget it: every minute, every second, etched into me in indelible ink, would be with me forever.”

Adam Kay is an award-winning writer and former non-award-winning junior doctor. His first book “This is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor” sold over 2.5 million copies.

His second book “Twas the Nightshift Before Christmas” sold over 500,000 copies in its first few weeks.

Last Updated on Sep 13, 2022

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